Stuff That Makes Me Smile: Cool Wedding Proposals

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I’ve never really been one for super romantic,  grand gestures, but there’s just something really fantastic about a well-crafted, well planned, creative wedding proposal. This is perhaps one of the best I’ve seen in a while.

(from Stuff That Makes Me Smile)


Stuff That Makes Me Smile: #3 Snow Days

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(from my blog: Stuff that make me Smile)

Growing up in the Midwest, any little snowflake was enough to get me excited about the possibility of no school. Me and my brother and sister would stare blankly at the television waiting for the newscaster to say our school was cancelled. This was in old school days before the Internet and fancy schmancy tickers across the screen. (Kids today have it so good.)

Now keep in mind I grew up in a city where inches of snow was not enough to keep us from having to go to school. So on that rare occasion when they cancelled school it was a cause for celebration. It was even better when we knew before bed and didn’t have to wake up early to find out. (It was still pretty sweet even if we did wake up in the morning and find out school was cancelled.)

This current snowstorm is bittersweet. I just graduated from college last semester. The snowstorm has been the first time I can remember that school has been canceled for three straight days. Its cool because I didn’t want to have to get out in the snow, but it kind of sucks because I don’t get that joy I had as a kid of waking up and learning there’s no school today.

A small consolation is that work was cancelled. So that still makes me smile.

SMILE METER: 10 (on days when I’d have to go to school); 6 (on days when I wouldn’t be leaving the house anyway)

Why This Blog?

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Basically I needed a pick me up.

I’ve been unemployed for over a year. My bank account is slowly but surely depleting, while my expenses seem keep increasing. My love life is nonexistent at the moment. Thanks to years of eating fast food and junk, my health is deteriorating.

I just needed something to take my mind off of these things for a while. I figured if I could think of at least one thing a day that makes me happy, I wouldn’t dwell so much on the things in my life that are challenging at this moment. I’m a pretty optimistic person, but the circumstances of life can be overwhelming at times. Focusing on the little things in life is one way to escape.

I hope it can be the same way for you.

I could not agree more

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Yay nachos!!!

Quote of the Day

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My boss in response to the accusation that he lacks a personal touch with his employees:

Ok, you break. You work. You leave. How’s that for a personal touch?

My blog is like my man

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I think I finally understand why I’m single.

If the way I treat my blog is any indication of the way I treat my man there’s no wonder I’m sleeping alone at night.

Now if my blog looked like this, I wouldn't be writing this post

 You have to pay attention to  your blog. You have to take care of your blog. You have to make your blog put the toilet seat down and take out the trash or all hell breaks loose (kidding, sort of).

 The point is I have not been treating this blog with the care and attention it deserves and I’m sorry about that. Its time for me to do better and I intend to. I’ve got to be more disciplined and focused. I have to put into this what I expect to get out of it. I have to make sweet love to this blog at least a few times a week (if not everyday) or I can expect this thing to just disappear. None of us want that.

 To any of my followers that are left, this is a new day. Hang in there with me and I promise it will be worth the ride. We’ve had some good times together, lets create a beautiful future.

The Statue of Liberty, my ex, and the guy who invented sex (Part 1)

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 Last week, I won concert tickets to see R&B singer and total hottie Trey Songz.

I told you he was a hottie

 I was familiar with Mr. Songz and liked some of his music, but really didn’t follow his career too much. But as you will learn we in Brandyland love any and all things free.

 I’d met a really cool guy the weekend before and I thought the concert would be a really cool and affordable first date. He was actually a big fan of Trey Songz.

 The afternoon of the concert I get a text that my date’s mom had a stroke and he wasn’t going to be able to come to the concert. I still wanted to go so I called around to all my friends and everyone was  busy. I had one last option.

 I’d previously mentioned to 21, a guy I used to see, that I had won tickets to the concert. He was really excited and joked that I could take him. So I called him and he said he could come with me.

If he’s dressed like the Statue of Liberty…run

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Yeah I know. I pick winners.

The latest offense of a would-be suitor: surfing dating sites on my laptop at my house.

I recently broke up with my boyfriend and am back in the dating scene. I had my second post-break-up date this weekend.

 We’ll call him Freedom (name changed to protect the guilty). I’m calling him that because he was wearing a Statue of Liberty costume when we met (I’m so not kidding).

He's not the guy I went out with, but my guy was dressed like this.

In Atlanta, there’s a company that dresses its employees as the Statue of Liberty to pass out flyers promoting the company. I was still dating my last boyfriend, but the relationship was going bad and I knew we’d be breaking up soon. Freedom and I struck up a conversation. He was nice and kind of cute, so I gave him my number.

 A few weeks later my boyfriend and I broke up and Freedom called. Based on the conversations I thought he was kind of a douche. But he seemed really interested in me so I thought I’d give him a chance. We decided to hang out on Sunday.

 I was tired so instead of going out I said he could just come over and watch movies. We made out a little (about 2nd base) then we decided he should go home. F my life, it started raining. He doesn’t have a car so we agreed he could just stay that night and leave in the morning.

 He spent the rest of the evening poaching music off my laptop for his iPod and asking me 50 million questions while I tried to watch TV. When I went online the next morning after he left to check my e-mail I noticed all my windows were minimized.  Then pops up a popular dating site. I check the history and it turns out he’d been surfing the dating site at my house while on our “date.”

Needless to say we won’t be going out again, but the lesson is don’t date a guy dressed as the Statue of Liberty no matter how cute he is. What are some of your most memorable  bad dates?

A different healthcare perspective

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I’ve had this cough for about three weeks.

No other symptoms. Just a cough. Well, and an occasional shortness of breath.

All of a sudden little things that never used to bother me are hard to do. Things like walking and even talking sometimes get me so winded.

I was having a conversation with my best friend and she noticed it.

“You still have that cough,” she said.

“Yeah,” I said.

“You need to go to the doctor,” she said. I wouldn’t expect anything less she’s a nurse and very overprotective of me.

But the thing is that’s easier said then done. I don’t have any health insurance. And now I don’t have a full time job, so I can’t afford the doctor bill. 

 I worked a job that I loved for eight years. I had health insurance that I paid into for eight years. Then the economy got bad and I lost my job and  my health insurance. That was almost a year ago. I found work temporarily, but that was a contract job and because of the economy it soon ended. So now I work a part time job making just above minimum wage and I go to college full time.

The funny thing is most of the people I know and that I see on TV complaining about the new healthcare bill are people who have healthcare plans. I haven’t seen anyone, like me without insurance complaining about it.

Its pretty tough, but its even tougher when I get sick and I can’t just walk into a hospital. That’s what I don’t understand about people that are against overhauling healthcare. There are a lot of people out there that aren’t looking for a handout.  Many of them are people who, through no fault of their own, lost jobs and their healthcare.

We are all willing to admit that the economy stinks, but so many that are blessed not to be as impacted by it are unwilling to help those who’ve really been devastated by it.

They call this the most generous country in the world, but I really have to wonder about that.

…speechless after I saw this.

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Saw this on the magazine stand and literally stopped in my tracks:

My thought was, “Oh wow!” I don’t really follow football so I had no idea who this was (it’s Reggie Bush, BTW). Of course, I was looking at this purely superficially, but on some further research I found this was a controversial cover.

 Some Essence readers had a problem with Reggie Bush being on the cover of a magazine for black women when he’s been in a pretty long, very public relationship with a woman who isn’t black. (Bush is dating reality TV star Kim Kardashian who is of Armenian descent). One reader comment  claimed “Bush had shunned Black women.”

 I can argue for both sides on this. First of all I have not seen or read anything that says Reggie Bush is against dating Black women. For totally selfish reasons I hope that’s not true (no chance for me, not that there was one anyway). Dating someone outside of your race by no means says you’ve shunned your race. If he has come out against dating black women than I agree that he is not an appropriate person to grace the cover of a magazine dedicated primarily to Black women. Put him inside, maybe, but not on the cover.

 My belief is that Essence made an excellent choice of cover models. I have not picked up an Essence magazine in months and I saw that cover and grabbed it immediately. I took it to the checkout counter and the cashier had the same reaction I did. It gets attention. Plus the issue is a celebration of Black men and there is no question Reggie Bush is a black man.

 Let the man date who he wants. Its not our business. If we put that same energy into our own relationships I think a lot less of our relationships would be in trouble. Just saying.

 What do you think? Are you offended by Reggie Bush being on the cover of Essence? Does it bother you that he is not dating a black woman?

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