…speechless after I saw this.

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Saw this on the magazine stand and literally stopped in my tracks:

My thought was, “Oh wow!” I don’t really follow football so I had no idea who this was (it’s Reggie Bush, BTW). Of course, I was looking at this purely superficially, but on some further research I found this was a controversial cover.

 Some Essence readers had a problem with Reggie Bush being on the cover of a magazine for black women when he’s been in a pretty long, very public relationship with a woman who isn’t black. (Bush is dating reality TV star Kim Kardashian who is of Armenian descent). One reader comment  claimed “Bush had shunned Black women.”

 I can argue for both sides on this. First of all I have not seen or read anything that says Reggie Bush is against dating Black women. For totally selfish reasons I hope that’s not true (no chance for me, not that there was one anyway). Dating someone outside of your race by no means says you’ve shunned your race. If he has come out against dating black women than I agree that he is not an appropriate person to grace the cover of a magazine dedicated primarily to Black women. Put him inside, maybe, but not on the cover.

 My belief is that Essence made an excellent choice of cover models. I have not picked up an Essence magazine in months and I saw that cover and grabbed it immediately. I took it to the checkout counter and the cashier had the same reaction I did. It gets attention. Plus the issue is a celebration of Black men and there is no question Reggie Bush is a black man.

 Let the man date who he wants. Its not our business. If we put that same energy into our own relationships I think a lot less of our relationships would be in trouble. Just saying.

 What do you think? Are you offended by Reggie Bush being on the cover of Essence? Does it bother you that he is not dating a black woman?

…turning you on. You know you want this.

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(source: StandardMadness.com)

…an awards show hater critiquing the Golden Globes.

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I hate awards shows.  I really do, but as part of my Television Analysis class I was assigned to watch and write a paper about the show. It actually wasn’t as painful as I thought it would be.

Great things about it being a live show:

  • Wardrobe malfunction: Chloe Sevigny’s big crazy Valentino  dress getting ripped by an usher and Kristen Bell just playing it off
  • Showing Leonardo DiCaprio’s picture when they said Jeff Bridges name. (I love me some Leonardo so I didn’t really mind, plus Jeff Bridges ended up winning the award so I’m sure he got over this really fast)

Number of times they played the music before the person finished their speech (this always cracks me up): Once while the writers for Grey Gardens were giving their speech.

Shows what I know: I was totally ragging on Michael C. Hall for wearing a hat with a tux to an awards show. Turns out he’s receiving treatment for cancer. Oops, my bad.

Acceptance speeches I loved:

  • MoNique – I didn’t see Precious (yet, plan to finally see it this week and blog about it), but I love MoNique and she seemed truly stunned to win the award. There is something that is just really genuine and human to me when someone on these shows wins an award and they truly didn’t expect it. That always really touches me.
  • Drew Barrymore – I have no idea why, but I love this girl. Maybe its because ET was the very first movie I ever saw in a movie theater. Anyway she rambles and mumbles about growing up in this room and thanks all the people that ever wished the best for her. It makes me long for the day I one day do something that makes all the people who’ve ever invested time and effort in me feel proud that they did.
  • James Cameron – says he wants to hurry up his speech because he “has to pee something fierce.” Hilarious.
  • Robert Downey Jr. – Classic I loved his whole acceptance speech, especially when he says “If you start playing violins I’m gonna tear this place down.” I loved that he said his wife told him not to write a speech because he wasn’t going to win and I loved that he used his speech to not thank people.

Funniest jokes:

  • Paul McCartney: “I’m Paul McCartney or as I’m now known, that guy from Rock Band.”
  • Paul McCartney: Animation is not just for kids, its also for drug-taking adults. Now here are the nominations for animated films selected by drug-taking adults
  • Ricky Gervais: Calling Colin Farrell a drunk sweary hellraiser

Kind of creepy, uncomfortable moment: Robert DeNiro’s joke about Martin Scorsese having sex with film…the joke that just wouldn’t end.

Touching moments:

  • Mo’Nique winning the award for Precious made me cry
  • Sandra Bullock’s speech made me cry when she said she never knew what it was like for someone to have her back until she met her husband
  • Julianna Margulies – the night she won the award was her son’s birthday.

Mentions of Haiti: (3 direct, 2 indirect):

  • Nicole Kidman mentions George Clooney’s charity
  • Jason Reitman when he won for the screenplay for Up In the Air
  • Maggie Gyllenhaal explains how to donate to Haiti via the NBC.com website;
  • indirect mentions by Drew Barrymore and Meryl Streep in their acceptance speeches

Knocks at NBC:

  • Ricky Gervais says he needs to get on with the show before they replace him with Jay Leno
  • Gov. Arnold Schwarzenegger on the cost to get hired (or fired) by NBC

Dresses I loved:

  • Sandra Bullock’s purple Bottega Veneta gown. She got a lot of flack for that dress, but I think it was fly. Work it girl.

  • Halle Berry’s black and gold Kaufman Franco gown

And save the best for last: Glee, my favorite new show won for best TV show comedy or musical.

Congrats to everyone.

…thinking like a man.

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In an effort to understand the male mind a little bit better over the past few months I’ve read three relationship books by men for women. All three books attempted to put women at a dating advantage by allowing us to understand how men think about women. After a year of being single I applied some of the techniques and caught me a hot, sexy guy. Was it the books? Who knows, but if you’ll indulge me I’d like to share some of the lessons I learned over the next three blog posts.

Actor/comedian Steve Harvey’s “Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man” was a best seller. He was all over the place giving love and relationship advice. And for good reason, the book was an incredible insight into the male psyche. Steve’s book forced me to look at myself the way a man sees me. Once I understood how a man saw me I understood their behavior.

One concept that stood out for me was his sportsfishing analogy. He explained that men sometimes view dating and pursuing women like fishing. There are the women that they catch and keep and then there is sports fishing where they fish just to see what they can get and then throw it back. That’s sports fishing. I never realized it, but I was a sports fish.

I say that because I always thought of myself as the type of girlfriend who didn’t put pressure on her man. I was never the type that would hound you about your whereabouts. I’m a free-spirit and I take that attitude into my relationships. I was always carefree and fun, with very little rules. I was always open to trying wild and adventurous things. What I learned is that men like those kinds of women, but they don’t date or marry those kinds of women.

They need and want rules and restrictions, just not too many. Also, being too wild and free makes them wonder if you are capable of being serious as a mother or a wife. I thought this was fascinating. I wonder if any of my guy readers agree or disagree with Steve’s take on this? What do you think? Do guys like freedom or do they need rules?

…loves me a big teddy bear man and here’s why.

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I had such a crush on this guy growing up, LOL. To this day I love me a big, teddy bear of a man and this guy is the reason why. LOL. So for this week’s Throwback Thursday, is none other than the overweight lover…